Why your partner irritates the F out of you

Ever wonder why you no longer feel that lovey dovey feeling towards your partner like you used to when you both just met? 

You might be thinking it’s because y'all are too busy, too tired, or they simply just aren’t hitting the mark with their actions.

But, that’s not why…

And you’re probably saying “Um, no. That’s exactly why! It’s because of x, y, z!”

 Well, let me ask you something. 

Are you depending on them to make you happy and satisfied every single day? 

Yes?

What if your partner’s role in your life wasn’t to make you happy?

“What?! What are they here for then?!” 

What if your partner’s role in your life was to be in a partnership with you, where you build, maintain, and grow the ideal lifestyle WHILE you both appreciate each other, celebrated each other, and loved each other WHILE doing that. 

And you say “Yeah? So that still means he should be making me happy!”

Well, no. 

Happiness is a natural byproduct of that partnership, not because he does and says certain things, but because the way they simply exist and present themselves to the world simply make you happy and proud to be theirs. 

Happiness in a relationship comes from appreciating the other person for who they are, without trying to change them.

Now, I didn’t come here to only tell you all the reasons why your partner isn’t responsible for your happiness, i came here to tell you that the way you can feel loved and satisfied for the rest of your life is by bringing that happiness from within. 

I know it sounds simple, but it’s not. It’s actually complex. 

Why?

Because you have been depending on other people and things to give you that spark inside. 

And now you have just learned that it can never come from others, if you’re not first sustaining it from within! 

Other people’s actions and words are like the cherry on top, but the cake and the icing? 

That comes from you babe. 

It’s emotional regulation. 

With emotional regulation, you get that spark back, where you feel f’ing ALIVE. 

Where you feel so in love with yourself 

Where you just feel on top on the world, and you didn’t wait on other people & things to do it for you. 

YOU did it. 

You did it using fun healing modalities like guided meditations, conscious movement, coaching, and a community. 

Let me share today’s experience with you, 

I woke up and immediately focused my attention upon myself, my blessings, the love God/Source/Universe has for me, i focused on how loved I am because I have a healthy body, air that comes freely, a warm bed, i mean,... talked about blessed right? 

I was at the epitome of feeling beyond blessed and full 

But do you see what I did there? 

I intentionally looked at what I can appreciate, that didn’t require other people. 

I didn’t wake up and look at my husband thinking “are you going to make me happy today?” “What are you going to do to make me feel special today?” Or “Are you going to piss me off today?”

As you start emotionally regulating and start filling up your emotional cup….. My gosh will you see the biggest change of your life.

Life is feeling more special, you feel love in your heart as you walk, you start feeling whole and you just go through your day, it’s like holy sh*t how is my life becoming so magical?

And you’re probably thinking, how do emotions change my life so much?

Well babe, emotions add color, depth and breath to your life

You notice it when your angry, annoyed or sad. Everything turns dark 

But that’s only because you haven’t been taught how to turn ON the light, using your emotions. 

Just give it a try, I promise you won’t ever go back. 

I want to invite you to a space where you can do this in fun relatable way. 

Where you can do it with a group of women who are also on this wonderful discovery of the power of your emotions. 

It’s called the Emotionally Aligned Circle. 

And i know it’s perfect for you, read more here so you can see the full details. 

What was your biggest takeaway about this blog?