How to Master Emotional Regulation and Take Control of Your Life: A Personal Journey

Hello! 

Welcome to Emotions with Laura. A place where you will learn how to turn emotional turmoil and triggers into self--regulation, become emotionally relaxed, and learn the power and leverage that you will experience as you start to emotionally regulate yourself on the daily.

I wanted to share my real life experience and journey so you can see where I was, where I am, and where this is leading me, so you know what's possible, so you know the power of this journey you are about to embark on, and so you can have this as a testimonial of what’s possible for you. 

So, I don't usually do this… and what I mean by that is, to think and focus on the past. Which is a superpower I can cultivate, but since I don't look back too often, I do need to think back right now so I can write this blog for you. I will be honest, it hurts a bit, and it's uncomfortable for me to ponder the past when I felt like I was at my …worst. But I know this is beneficial for you and me, we can see how far I’ve come, this blog is a celebration, and it’ll cast a vision of where you are headed as well. 

I’ve been aware of the power of the mind, thoughts, and emotions for a handful of years.. I started this journey back in 2018 as I started reading a highly accredited doctor Dr. Joe Dispenza, he has done so many studies around meditation, and the power of thoughts and emotions. I started by reading his book “Becoming Super Natural” check it out after you finish reading this blog, so any way that’s the first book I picked up and I ended up understanding emotions, the mind, and the effect of thoughts. 

Right off the back, I will say…

I can feel rich with no money in the bank

I can feel loved with no one around me 

I can feel successful with no sign of wins 

I can feel relaxed and dare I say, BLISS in times where most would lose their mind. 

This isn't to say I am naive, or delusional.. This is to show you that outside circumstances no longer have a hold on me. 

Outside circumstances will not have a hold on me and they will not hold me down. 

Guys, in these past 2 and half years I have

• Moved across the country (From California to Florida) without any family in FL, only my husband and his small family 

• I have successfully created and grown my online business 

• I have been mostly been an entrepreneur during most of these 2 and a half years being here in FL, fully supporting myself, my son, and our home, and giving our family more freedom

But also…

• I have lost my focus and drive for business 

• I have pivoted and failed in business

• I have had to borrow money from my parents for a few months before getting back on my feet 

• I have struggled financially during a short period of time (thankfully) 

• I have felt mad shame around myself, my finances, my “failed” business

• I have felt the shittest, worthless, version of me possible 

• And for the first time ever in my life, I experienced a suicidal thought 

It had never been this bad. I have never felt this low. I have never felt more disappointed. 

Now guys, even through all of this bullcrap I felt like I was experiencing, it was never truly a life-or-death situation for me. It was more of, feeling the shame of not being the successful mother, wife, or woman I knew I was meant to be. 

So what happened after all of this?  

Well…. 

Even while having no money in my account, I was able to feel hopeful and even rich inside because I regulated my emotions 

Even though it seemed like i would have to pack my bags and move back in with my parents, I decided to feel relaxed…

Even though I had no idea how I was going to pay next month’s rent... I actually felt like a billionaire inside 

Now you’re probably thinking, why? 

Why would you want to make yourself feel like something you’re not?

Why would you “lie” to yourself? 

Why wouldn’t you go hustle instead? 

Well firstly, my son is still a kid I cant just get up and go, but I am HAPPY that that was my circumstance because it brought me to where I am now.

Let me tell you why. 

This is where I am now, after making myself feel different from what I was actually living 

• I am a full-time entrepreneur

• I provide for myself, my child, and pay half of the household bills (my husband also helps in the household, cars, and for our child) *but this blog is about me ;) hehe so moving on 

• I have the flexibility to wake up when i want

• I work when I want (as long as I fulfill my responsibilities)

• I go shopping for us 

• I buy groceries for us

• I freely pay bills and have plenty left over 

• My business and success is growing 

• I have self-love and a high self worth image 

• I have a multi-millionaire identity (we can talk about this after)

• I feel connected to the highest version of me

• I feel connected to massive success 

• I feel connected to massive love 

• I feel connected to who I truly am 

• I feel connected to my dreams….

Let me tell you where i would be if

• if did not self-regulate

• If I did not relax my nervous system 

• If I did not put faith in action 

• If I did not self-soothe 

• If I did not believe in a better life 

I would be stuck. I would be losing. I would probably be living in a place that i didn't want to be. I would be a loser. Why? Because that would mean I gave up. That would mean I let the hard times consume me. 

But I KNEW and I had faith. I just knew. And I know, you know. You can feel that this is meant for you. You can feel the calling for something greater, a greater version of true, a free, passionate version of you. That’s what I felt and knew. 

Emotional regulation isn't just about feeling better at the moment, it’s about KNOWING the results it yields to you. 

No one wants to help someone who is hopeless. Everyone wants to help a person who knows they are a winner. A champion. They can feel and sense your determination that you WILL win. 

Emotional regulation is you, coding yourself, for what you KNOW is coming. 

It isn't just about getting happy and staying there (although thats truly the only win you need at that moment for things to get better) it’s about feeling relaxed, trusting, hopeful, faithful … because god wants you to win. God/ Source/ higher power wants to deliver you the goods. But it can't find you, if you’re depressed. It finds you when you tune yourself within and respond to the possibility. 

But shifting my emotions, through self-regulation, by releasing negative emotions

I won… 

And I KNEW that these emotions would result in me winning. 

And there’s a scientific reason why higher emotions lead to a more abundant life experience (Dr. Joe Dispenza goes into the science about it) 

But for now, I am here to tell you you are on the right track. 

You are right. 

And you’re in the right place...

I am excited for you...

Feel free to send me a message at lauraruizcoaching@gmail. or comment below :)

Tell me, did this resonate with you? How did this land for you? I’d love to know! 

Where are you? Where do you KNOW you're going? Share with me!

XOXO with gratitude,

Laura Ruiz